I have three tattoos forever inked on my body. I want more. At one point in time I had 10 piercings. I had my lip pierced one Saturday night on a whim.
My hair has been dyed varying shades of black, red and blonde. I bleached my bangs once (that was a terrible skunk phase).
I have experimented with many style of clothes since I was little. Prep, punk, skater chick (without ever actually knowing how to ride a skate board) sporty, pixie.
I would not say that I fit nicely into any one bucket. I’m a mix, but tend to learn more to the alternative side. I do what feels comfortable more than what is “popular”.
Overall, I am not a conventional person. Yet still, I refuse to pierce my daughters ears.
Numerous family members and friends have asked and pleaded for me to pierce her ears. They all say things like “I had my ears pierced as a baby” and “You have so many, why can’t she get one?” or “She will look so pretty with earrings!”.
My mother pierced my ears when I was three. That was my mothers choice. My tattoos and piercings that followed after I turned 18, were all my decision. I live with the consequences (scars) of those decisions. I will not pierce my daughters ears, because they are her ears not mine, and she has not asked to do so.
My daughter is 8 and has made comments about her friends having earrings, or saying that my earrings are pretty. But she has never once said that she wanted her ears pierced. I have asked her a few times, and she says “No, I’m okay” every single time. Why should I force earrings on her?
I will and do make decisions for her when it comes to her health and safety. I will not, however, force my daughter to be someone she is not. I try very hard to give her the freedom to express herself and be who she wants to be. Most days she’s a tomboy who loves dragons and dinosaurs. Some days she wants to play dress up and paint her nails. I support both.
Her ears will remain without holes till she decides that earrings are something that SHE wants. If that day comes, I will bring her to a piercing parlor and have them pierced correctly all while hopefully being that “cool mom”.