Last week when I picked up Audrey at school the teacher said that we needed to talk. immediately panic rushed into my mind “What am I doing wrong?” But I calmly answered “What’s going on?”
she proceeded to tell me that earlier that day all the kids were asked to use the potty before nap time, and Audrey was refusing. So they picked her up and brought her over to the bathroom and asked her to use it. She got so upset with being told what to do so she peed in her pants.
The teacher went on yo say that “We” as a team (school and home) need to do a better job of putting our feet down and following through with what we say. We have to stop getting frustrated and giving in because even though it may be the easier option, it’s not the best for her in the long run. So I thanked the teacher and said that I knew Little Miss is stubborn and highly opinionated and that we were trying to work on behavior.
So just a few days later Audrey had the temper tantrum of the century. She did not want to eat breakfast. She did not want to put her shoes on. She did not want to brush her teeth. Screaming, hitting, kicking, throwing things. At one point she even took her brush and wiped the paste all over the floor. These over the top tantrums are infuriating, frustrating, exhausting, over-whelming and makes me feel like I am a total failure as a mother.
I know she is just trying to figure out what she can get away with and how much she can push to get her way, but in the moment it’s honestly just so damn hard.
Eventually we just had to put her in the car with no shoes on, dirty teeth and sent her with her breakfast and lunch packed. The teacher gladly took our screaming child and said with a smile “I know it’s hard, but you’re doing a great job!” She eventually calmed down and got on with her day, and we did as well.
One tantrum at a time we will work through this and get her listening ears back. At least I know I never have to worry about her not sticking up for herself, she is one strong and stubborn child.